This results in transfers of persons from there to here and perpetuates transnational contacts. Some Muslim families erroneously believe that marrying their children even without their consent is a religious precept.
Because of a literal reading and rigid interpretation of the Koran and the Hadith, certain segments of the Muslim population consider arranged and forced marriage a religious duty, thereby betraying the very essence of the message. That belief arises out of their confusion of cultural practices with religious principles. This confusion partly explains the fact that forced marriage is generally associated with Islam in Western public opinion, but the survey responses show that it also exists in families belonging to other religions.
Young girls and women from Hindu, Jewish and Christian Catholic, Protestant or Orthodox families whom our respondents met were also facing forced marriage. I would like to talk about countries of origin.
First of all, many people when they speak with me about process and my clientele - they leap to the conclusion that it must be predominantly Muslim countries. I mean there are other countries — a lot of non-Muslim countries as well, which might surprise some people. I try to dispel sort of anti-Muslim attitudes. Respondent P. Forced marriage is also a way of controlling women's sexuality.
Some parents see forced marriage as a way of protecting their daughters against the risk of romantic relationships, and most importantly against sexual relations outside marriage.
Above all, they are seeking to avoid pregnancies considered to be illegitimate that could result from this type of relationship. As far as many families are concerned, their reputation depends on the proper sexual behaviour of their members, especially the females.
The patriarchal standards that are still valued in these families are reproduced in the society in which they settle. One of those standards is the duty to preserve virginity, which arises out of the desire to control women's bodies in order to preserve family honour, and thus patriarchal power. Vigilance on this point of honour is strict and a forced marriage, preferably an early one, is the best defence against any challenge to that honour. Footnote 3. There are sometimes social and economic factors surrounding forced marriage.
It may allow two families or two clans to forge an alliance or to strengthen bonds and solidarity between groups. Families that opt for a marriage with first cousins are trying to remain within the group and preserve property and inheritance rights that might exist. Poverty is one of the main causes of forced marriage. For some poor families, the marriage of a daughter to a man who is better off is both a way of giving her access to a higher standard of living than they can offer and a way of securing a nest egg in return for a dowry.
Some young women who have sought and received assistance from workers in shelters for victims of violence were still underage when their parents married them off to men much older and richer than themselves. These were girls from countries in Latin America or the West Indies whose parents, because of their extreme poverty, "sold" them, in return for cash, to French-speaking Quebecois men.
I have in fact taken in several women who were forced into marriage. There were two cases that really struck me. The first was a girl from a country in the West Indies. You enter the relationship with minimal expectations, and both the partners observe things and make adjustments to make the marriage work. In fact, you accept the person the way he or she is, and do not get to complain that you dated a different person before tying the knot and he or she changed after marriage.
You might be spoiled for choice when opting for an arranged marriage. Thanks to matrimonial apps and sites, you can hunt for the perfect partner online while sitting at the comfort of your home with your parents. In fact, you can take charge of the entire procedure and look for someone who shares similar beliefs and moral values. But in a love marriage, you have no choice but to accept everything.
Society is evolving and so is the concept of an arranged marriage. Couples prefer to meet multiple times before taking a decision and discuss their expectations from marriage. Not just this, even families are okay with a long courtship period so that the bride and groom can get to understand each other better. They understand you, your needs and also the complexities of this relationship much better. At the end of the day, whether it is love or arranged marriage, you have to take a leap of faith and hope for a happy married life.
Marriage is a gamble and there is no sure-shot way to predict its success. What matters is that no one should be forced to take this decision and should tie the knot only when he or she is ready. Please Click Here to subscribe other newsletters that may interest you, and you'll always find stories you want to read in your inbox. A weekly guide to the biggest developments in health, medicine and wellbeing delivered to your inbox.
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The post serves as an overview of Arranged Marriage in India. Good Luck on your paper! Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Arranged Marriages in India Arranged Marriage: Stories, Arranged marriages have been part of the Indian culture since the fourth century. Muslim Arranged Marriages in India In the Muslim faith, it is the responsibility of the parents to provide for the education and the marriage of their children.
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